{"id":6376,"date":"2024-12-31T09:21:41","date_gmt":"2024-12-31T02:21:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/?p=6376"},"modified":"2024-12-31T09:22:53","modified_gmt":"2024-12-31T02:22:53","slug":"29-yasimda-cirkin-kadinlarin-hediye-almadigini-anladim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/29-yasimda-cirkin-kadinlarin-hediye-almadigini-anladim\/","title":{"rendered":"29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 id='29-ya\u015f\u0131mda-\u00e7irkin-kad\u0131nlar\u0131n-hediye-almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131-anlad\u0131m-\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcm-\u00e7irkin-kad\u0131nlar-hediye-almaz-29-ya\u015f\u0131ndaki-bir-kad\u0131n\u0131n-y\u00fcre\u011finden-ac\u0131-i\u0307tiraflar'  id=\"boomdevs_1\" ><strong>29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m. \u201c\u00dczg\u00fcn\u00fcm \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar Hediye Almaz!\u201d: 29 Ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Bir Kad\u0131n\u0131n Y\u00fcre\u011finden Ac\u0131 \u0130tiraflar<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Modern ya\u015famda biz kad\u0131nlar s\u0131kl\u0131kla toplumdan, aileden ve hatta kendimizden \u00e7ok fazla bask\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kal\u0131r\u0131z. Bu bask\u0131lardan biri, sayg\u0131 duyulmak ve sevilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ekici bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcme sahip olmak zorunda olmakt\u0131r. &#8220;\u00c7irkin kad\u0131nlar\u0131n yetenekleri yoktur&#8221; s\u00f6z\u00fc sadece bir \u015faka de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda toplumun kad\u0131nlar\u0131 nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirdi\u011fi ve ona nas\u0131l davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131 konusundaki ger\u00e7e\u011fi de g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>\n<p>Ben ViVi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren g\u00fczel kad\u0131nlar\u0131n her zaman daha fazla ilgi ve be\u011feni g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc fark ettim. Ola\u011fan\u00fcst\u00fc g\u00fczelli\u011fe sahip bir kad\u0131n de\u011filim. Y\u00fcz\u00fcm geleneksel g\u00fczellik standartlar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lam\u0131yor: G\u00f6zlerim b\u00fcy\u00fck ve yuvarlak de\u011fil, cildim p\u00fcr\u00fczs\u00fcz ve beyaz de\u011fil ve v\u00fccudum ince de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar beni bir\u00e7ok insan\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnde solgunla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131. Odaya girdi\u011fimde herkes taraf\u0131ndan fark edilmedim. Ve bu benim \u00f6zg\u00fcvenimi derinden etkiledi.<\/p>\n<h2 id='\u00e7ocukluktan'  id=\"boomdevs_2\" ><strong>\u00c7ocukluktan\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/wilimedia.vn\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/17-1.jpg\" alt=\"29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m\" width=\"604\" height=\"601\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>G\u00fczel k\u0131zlar\u0131n erkeklerden her zaman \u00f6zel ilgi g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc okul g\u00fcnlerimi hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. D\u0131\u015far\u0131 davet edildiler, hediyeler verildi ve benim hi\u00e7 g\u00f6rmedi\u011fim ilgiyi g\u00f6rd\u00fcler. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman kendimi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez biri gibi hissediyorum, her zaman konu\u015fmalar\u0131n ve etkinliklerin kenarlar\u0131nda duruyorum.<\/p>\n<p>Kendimi g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in her zaman iyi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ve bir\u00e7ok ders d\u0131\u015f\u0131 etkinli\u011fe kat\u0131lmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsam da, bu \u00e7abalar g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcn b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131 kapatmaya yetmiyor gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n<h2 id='b\u00fcy\u00fcyene-kadar'  id=\"boomdevs_3\" ><strong>B\u00fcy\u00fcyene kadar\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/wilimedia.vn\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/20-1.jpg\" alt=\"29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m\" width=\"604\" height=\"601\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>B\u00fcy\u00fcrken d\u00fcnyan\u0131n adaletsiz oldu\u011funu ve g\u00fczelli\u011fin bir kad\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ve mutlulu\u011funu belirleyen fakt\u00f6rlerden biri oldu\u011funu fark ettim. G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm konusunda tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 hissetmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Pahal\u0131 kozmetik \u00fcr\u00fcnleri ve k\u0131yafetler sat\u0131n almaktan, bir\u00e7ok farkl\u0131 diyet denemeye kadar, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcme dikkat etmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ok fazla zaman ve para harc\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n<p>Umar\u0131m bir g\u00fcn g\u00fczel olurum ve toplum taraf\u0131ndan tan\u0131n\u0131r\u0131m. Ancak ger\u00e7ekte bu her zaman bekledi\u011fim gibi sonu\u00e7lanm\u0131yor.<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fe dayal\u0131 ayr\u0131mc\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 en \u00e7ok hissetti\u011fim alanlardan biri de i\u015f. \u0130\u015fimde \u00e7ok \u00e7aba sarf etmeme ve \u00e7ok \u015fey ba\u015farmama ra\u011fmen, yine de g\u00fczel meslekta\u015flar\u0131mla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendimi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsendi\u011fimi hissediyorum. Bir keresinde \u015firketim b\u00fcy\u00fck bir etkinlik d\u00fczenledi\u011finde, sorumlu ki\u015finin benim kadar tecr\u00fcbesi olmamas\u0131na ra\u011fmen \u015firketi temsil etmesi i\u00e7in yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 bir kad\u0131n meslekta\u015f\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7ti\u011fini hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. Bu beni son derece hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frat\u0131yor ve kendimi bilin\u00e7li hissediyorum.<\/p>\n<p>Bu kendimi bilin\u00e7li hissetmeme ve hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framama neden oluyor. Acaba sadece g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmden mi yoksa \u00e7abam ve yetene\u011fim yeterli olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan m\u0131 g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yorum?<\/p>\n<h2 id='ger\u00e7ekli\u011fimizi-\u00e7evreleyen-g\u00fczelli\u011fi-olmayan-kad\u0131nlara-dair-hikayeler'  id=\"boomdevs_4\" ><strong>Ger\u00e7ekli\u011fimizi \u00c7evreleyen G\u00fczelli\u011fi Olmayan Kad\u0131nlara Dair Hikayeler<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/wilimedia.vn\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/18-1.jpg\" alt=\"29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m\" width=\"604\" height=\"601\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>Bunun somut bir \u00f6rne\u011fi yak\u0131n arkada\u015f\u0131m Alva&#8217;n\u0131n hikayesidir. Alva&#8217;n\u0131n da ola\u011fan\u00fcst\u00fc bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fc yok ama \u00e7ok ak\u0131ll\u0131 ve yetenekli. \u00dcniversiteden m\u00fckemmel sonu\u00e7larla mezun olduktan sonra Alva, uygun bir i\u015f bulma konusunda da bir\u00e7ok zorlukla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131. Alva, bir itiraf\u0131nda onlarca g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeye kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ancak h\u00e2l\u00e2 herhangi bir i\u015f teklifi almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0131rf parlak bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcme sahip olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsendi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Alva, haks\u0131zl\u0131k hissetti\u011fi ve kendine olan inanc\u0131n\u0131 kaybetti\u011fi i\u00e7in bir\u00e7ok kez pes etmek istedi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n<p>Payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir hikaye daha\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Sarah&#8217;n\u0131n da ola\u011fan\u00fcst\u00fc bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fc yok ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman kendine g\u00fcvenmiyor. Bana 25. ya\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fcnde bir grup yak\u0131n arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131 bir partiye davet etti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Ancak sadece birka\u00e7 ki\u015fi kat\u0131ld\u0131, di\u011ferleri ise farkl\u0131 nedenlerle reddetti.<\/p>\n<p>Sarah g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeye ve \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc gizlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ama parti bittikten sonra g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 tutamad\u0131 ve kendini son derece yaln\u0131z hissetti. Sarah&#8217;n\u0131n hikayesi bana bu ac\u0131 verici deneyimlerde yaln\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 hissettiriyor.<\/p>\n<h2 id='y\u00fcrek-par\u00e7alayan-ger\u00e7ek'  id=\"boomdevs_5\" ><strong>Y\u00fcrek par\u00e7alayan ger\u00e7ek\u2026<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/wilimedia.vn\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/19-1.jpg\" alt=\"29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m\" width=\"607\" height=\"602\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>En y\u00fcrek burkan deneyimlerden biri a\u015fk\u0131 bulma ve bir aile kurma a\u015famas\u0131na girdi\u011fim zamand\u0131. Arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu evli ve \u00e7ocuklu olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen ben hala di\u011fer yar\u0131m\u0131 ar\u0131yorum. Pek \u00e7ok ili\u015fki ya\u015fad\u0131m ama hepsi hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla sonu\u00e7land\u0131. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman s\u0131rf g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm standartlara uygun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in reddedildi\u011fimi hissettim.<\/p>\n<p>Her seferinde kalbim k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yor ve a\u015fka olan inanc\u0131m\u0131 daha da kaybediyorum.<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131ca insanlar\u0131n birbirlerini foto\u011fraflara g\u00f6re yarg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7evrimi\u00e7i randevulara da kat\u0131ld\u0131m. Yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 insanlar genellikle bulu\u015fmak ve arkada\u015f edinmek i\u00e7in bir\u00e7ok davet al\u0131r. O zamanlar s\u00f6ylediklerim ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131mla iyi bir izlenim b\u0131rakmak i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00e7abalamam gerekiyordu. \u0130\u00e7 g\u00fczelli\u011fin \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu biliyorum ama g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcz y\u00fcz\u00fcnden reddedildi\u011finizde \u00fcz\u00fclmemek elde de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7irkin kad\u0131nlara genellikle hediye verilmez, bu da onlar\u0131 \u00fczer. Bir keresinde kendisinden birka\u00e7 ya\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olan erkek karde\u015fimin bana \u015funu s\u00f6yledi\u011fini hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum: &#8220;E\u011fer g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn k\u0131zlar\u0131 g\u00fczelse, ba\u015far\u0131 \u015fanslar\u0131 %50&#8217;den fazlad\u0131r. &#8221; G\u00fczel burada &#8220;g\u00fczelli\u011fe sahip olmak&#8221; anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/p>\n<p>G\u00fczel ve yetenekli k\u0131zlar\u0131n \u015fans\u0131n\u0131n d\u00f6rtte birine ve \u00e7ok say\u0131da f\u0131rsata sahip olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in, daha az g\u00fczel bir k\u0131z\u0131n bu f\u0131rsatlar\u0131 elde etmek i\u00e7in kat kat daha fazla \u00e7aba harcamas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n<p>Geli\u015fimin ve hayatta kalman\u0131n do\u011fal yasas\u0131 nas\u0131l su\u00e7lanabilir? G\u00fczellik, ya\u015farken, \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ve keyif al\u0131rken herkesin hedefidir. Erkeklerin g\u00f6zlerine a\u015f\u0131k olduklar\u0131nda merak etmeye gerek yok. G\u00fczel k\u0131zlardan ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen her erkek bunu nadir bir hikayeymi\u015f gibi anlat\u0131yor demektir.<\/p>\n<p>Hey, tatillerde, 12 k\u0131z tuvaleti. Kim en g\u00fczelse, y\u0131\u011f\u0131nla hediye al\u0131r. Dikkat bile etmeyin veya \u00e7\u00f6pe atmay\u0131n. G\u00fczelli\u011fi olmayan herkes yaln\u0131zd\u0131r. Aksine, \u00e7irkin insanlar \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00fczel insanlardan daha iyi \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n<p>Kendisinden \u00fc\u00e7 ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck olan ablas\u0131 ise hayata dair \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi: &#8220;E\u011fer g\u00fczelse, zaman\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fczel k\u0131zlar\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feylerle ge\u00e7irir.&#8221; E\u011fer \u00e7irkinse ne yapabilir? O zaman sadece \u00e7al\u0131\u015f. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc ve kendine ac\u0131may\u0131 hafifletmek i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. O halde iyi \u00e7al\u0131\u015f ki g\u00fczel k\u0131za g\u00f6steri\u015f yapabilesin! \u2013 S\u00f6z \u00e7ok g\u00fczel.<\/p>\n<p>Bir\u00e7ok insan kendilerinden daha g\u00fczel k\u0131zlara bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda sinirleniyor mu? Ba\u015fka bir deyi\u015fle hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapamazs\u0131n\u0131z anlam\u0131na gelir. Tek bir se\u00e7enek var: Daha g\u00fczel de\u011filse daha iyi. G\u00fczel k\u0131zlar\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131ya giden yolunda pek \u00e7ok ho\u015f kokulu \u00e7i\u00e7ek ve tatl\u0131 nektar vard\u0131r. K\u00f6t\u00fc bir k\u0131z arkada\u015f\u0131n yolunda pek \u00e7ok ka\u011f\u0131t, bardak, kalem ve not vard\u0131r&#8230; Tsk! D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn ve sev!<\/p>\n<p>K\u0131sacas\u0131 g\u00fczelli\u011fi olmayan kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu zaman hi\u00e7bir yetene\u011fi yoktur. Ama neden bir hediyeye ihtiyac\u0131n var? Hediye almayanlar, hediyeleri ba\u015fkalar\u0131na vermek yerine sat\u0131n al\u0131rlar. Ancak art\u0131k &#8220;itibar\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmekten&#8221; korkman\u0131za gerek yok! Sadece risk al. Kaderiniz \u00fczerine bahse girin. Neden oturup a\u011flay\u0131p kaderiniz i\u00e7in yas tutuyorsunuz?<\/p>\n<p>Mutluluk herkesin hakk\u0131d\u0131r. Sorun \u015fu ki kimse bu hakk\u0131 nas\u0131l kullanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmiyor..<\/p>\n<p><strong>Site web: <a href=\"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/\">https:\/\/wilitr.com<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Page de fans:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/wilimedia.en\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/wilimedia.en<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mail: Admin@wilimedia.com<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>29 Ya\u015f\u0131mda \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n Hediye Almad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 Anlad\u0131m. \u201c\u00dczg\u00fcn\u00fcm \u00c7irkin Kad\u0131nlar Hediye Almaz!\u201d: 29 Ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Bir Kad\u0131n\u0131n Y\u00fcre\u011finden Ac\u0131 \u0130tiraflar Modern ya\u015famda biz kad\u0131nlar s\u0131kl\u0131kla toplumdan, aileden ve hatta kendimizden \u00e7ok fazla bask\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kal\u0131r\u0131z. &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":6377,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[111],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6376","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-tam-tu-ve-dep"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6376","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6376"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6376\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6378,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6376\/revisions\/6378"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6377"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6376"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6376"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wilitr.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6376"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}